Human Development - Independence Is The First Step

May 2018 ยท 3 minute read

“Freedom is loyalty to the best self and principles, and this is frequently disloyalty to general idols and fetishes.” Mark Twain

According to my studies, my experiences and my own reflections, I see human growth as a journey - a steep climb from dependence to independence to interdependence into transcendence. This lifetime journey begins at dawn, if we are determined by our parents and other loved ones.

The process of getting physically independent is automatic with age. As we pass through childhood and adolescence and become adults, many of us also manage to become financially independent - and that usually requires some concentrated effort. We take up jobs, go from our parents’ homes, get married and have children - measures toward accepting responsibility for our lives in addition to for the family members who are now hooked on us. For all, our quest for liberty ends here.

But being human isn’t only about physical and material development. We need to grow emotionally and intellectually. Emotionally, many of us stay dependent - letting situations around us control our emotions. If we are not masters of our emotions, can we really be masters of our own fate?

Emotional maturity or liberty is not about trying to control what happens to us. Rather it is about how we react to what occurs to us. It is freedom of choice in the way we respond to adverse circumstances. We could lash out, as we may have done as children, or we can choose to be reasoned and thoughtful and positive about moving forward.

In my books about discovering one’s true calling, I borrow a tool from ‘The Art of Possibility’ by Ben and Rosamund Zander. I ask participants to invoke the feeling of ‘How Wonderful’ whenever they are in a poor situation. By way of instance, imagine you are late to an important meeting cause a flight has been delayed. Can you experience it like a superb moment? Would you find that as wonderful?

Most participants look at me as if I am mad. “That would be just like lying to myself,” the say. “Even though I say that a scenario isn’t so bad, it’s still a poor circumstance. treinamentos em tubarão doesn’t go away.” As we workshop this thought further, they concede that they are more likely to come up with creative answers when they’re in a good mood than when they’re angry and angry. They also see the way the frustrating situation might actually be a wonderful chance to learn something new or generate some creative thoughts. They walk out thinking, “Hmm, I wonder if that might work. I’m going to attempt it…”

Moving on to cognitive development, de Tocqueville commented on how Americans have so little independence of mind but much freedom of discussion. It’s a worldwide phenomenon.

Starting from our schooldays, we are taught answers to questions we do not have. We are led to think that there is one correct answer and there is some expert somewhere that has figured it out. As we grow into adults, we’re brainwashed by the media, the promotion messages and the governmental propaganda; we live in the comfort of not having to exercise our wisdom. In the Middle Ages, religion forced humanity to some set of faith. In today’s times, we take the supposed wisdom of scientists and pseudo-scientists - such as economists - without much question.